Friends - True or Not

"Friends, how many of us have them….friends," taking this from hip-hop group Whodini! For those that do not know this song you should look it up and listen to it. Not only is it entertaining but also true to an extent. The song is mainly geared towards relationships between men and women after the first verse. The first verse is where I am going with this blog. I worked with a girl who I thought we were really cool and this is strictly on a friend level. She started working here after me, I helped her during her new hire training and continuing education training on the job. We then ended up working together on the same team. We started working even closer on the same project together and carpooling to work. I stating this because all the time we spent together we would talk about everything and have no shame towards one another. We both had our personal problems that we talked about daily. Then you know how a situation comes up and you find out who your friends really are. Well this happened with us.

The project ended and then it came back up again. This time I was the only one chosen to implement the project. This is where things went downhill. It was the same old cliché. She got upset because she was not chosen for the project. First of all she knows this was bad and who cares. From the beginning of the first project management knew I put forth all the work and ingenuity to put it together because I kept them involved because I needed their help. This was obvious I did the work and she did nothing. While she was leaving work early or not showing up was noticed as well. While I was gone she threw me under the bus by bad mouthing me to everyone and trying to take all the credit for the first project. What she didn’t know was the feedback from the people we was completing the project for provided stated as such to her lack of performance and involvement. She did it to herself. Then the project was completed again and I had to return to my home work location. I then tried to approach her and she had attitude so I left her alone and let all that nonsense be on her. Nothing was my fault on this and she could not and still refuses to recognize her faults in many situations. This is where I am going with this blog.

Since then her life has just feel apart and a lot of what she told me comes up to be false. She said was married but come to find out since they split up no divorce is needed. She said her supposed to be husband cheated on her which she cheated on him. She has tried to make him look like the villain which he is just upset and hurt which she refuses to acknowledge. She wants everyone to be one her side and have pity for her. Well if she knew me like she says she would know I am not the pity party type person and especially when you lie. Still I try to help her and she continues to lie. For those out there in similar situations; if the person calls themselves your good friend but refuses to be completely honest and claims to always be completely honest, then keep them at arm’s length and sometime you have to let them bury themselves for them to realize who their true friends are.